GyroGerald needs Attorney

GK2

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Hey I know this isn’t a gyro question but I am putting out a request. My 22 year old son is going through the start of a divorce. I don’t have any experience in this situation and want to advise correctly.
My question is, does anyone know of an Attorney in Ga that’s part of the gyro community? I want to ask some questions and get some advice. Don’t want to air all the laundry in a post, but just feel if the Attorney is part of the gyro group I will get some straight answers etc.

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Gerald
Also my email is [email protected]
 

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If the attorney is part of a gyro group you think you will get straight answers.
Hell no.
You get circular answers.

I don't have any experience in this matter yet either but all I know is that in the US you are generally left half a man in a divorce if you are lucky. I was told that before I even migrated to the US.
 

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Allow me to present some brutal facts

Most divorcing people (him and her) can come up with a reasonable division of assets ... even when they are feuding.

Besides , the final decision is by a judge and most of the time he renders a reasonable division of marital assets.

When him and her each get a lawyer the 2 lawyers go to the golf course and calculate how many billing hours they can suck out of him and her.

Lawyers will feud like cats and dogs in court but in the end the judge usually is fair to him and her.

By then most assets now belong to lawyers who are back on the golf course celebrating.

Child custody is not so simple but usually reasonable in the end

Some jurisdictions now have no-fault divorce options .... try for that if available ... that way most of the original assets remain with him and her

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A few of us on the forum are attorneys but I can't say whether any are admitted to practice in Georgia. There are 50 different sets of marital law in the U.S. and local knowledge is essential.
 

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If the two people concerned are reasonable, and an equitable division of assets and child time can be made that is fair to both, without lawyers being involved, then that will leave both parties better off financially and emotionally.

Speaking from experience, and still on regular friendly speaking terms with both ex-wives.

Have a son who has been involved in a divorce with a nightmare ex, and has been expensively involved in seemingly never ending costly litigation that has driven him to distraction.

It does depend on the particular circumstances, but when more than one lawyer is involved costs spiral exponentially as Martin so succinctly pointed out.
 

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That’s for advise so far, The Dad of the wife is pushing hard for the divorce. The wife’s Dad has money and is is probably willing to throw whatever at the divorce to make it happen. My wife and I had hoped they could get some counseling and fix whatever disagreements they had especially for the sake of the new child. They have a 10 month old baby. The Father of the bride is probably promising the moon and the stars for her to not get any counseling and my son has not seen his child now for a couple of months.
They are 22 years old and as mature as you would expect. They really don’t have any assets to speak of but they have been living off my sons student loans for past couple years. So there is that debt and the debt of my sons car.
My son is in Chatham county Georgia and wife moved back to Rome ga with parents and sisters house from what I can tell.
Her attorney filed divorce papers in Chatem county and he was served on the 7th this month. So I think he has to sign something or reply within 30 days.
Right now that’s the issue we don’t know wether to not sign or get attorney. Etc.
Thankfully, my son has not done anything or made any threats that they could try to get a restraining order on him. We warned him that he needs to be hyper sensitive to anything they could use against him at this point. Her Dad would have already gone that route if he had something.

Because they both really don’t have any assets and if she is instructed not to try any form of reconciliation then it stands to reason Terms could be negotiated. The problem with that is she has blocked him, so he can’t contact her, he can only contact her attorney.
My son told me, while they were still talking she has even said this whole thing has been blow out of proportion. To me she is easily influenced and not she’s with people who aren’t thinking about the child but just their own agenda. I feel confident there is an excellent chance this could be avoided with counseling, but if she’s influenced against counseling then we have to work with what we have.

Right now he is working at a hotel as a Valet parking cars at night and doing his classes in Savannah Ga.
I am going to call an Attorney in Rome to see what options he has. But, this Attorney has already said he would not go to Savannah. I was hoping their might be an Attorney for Ga that could try to negotiate a fair divorce with her attorney.
I kinda think that’s possible because, They don’t own anything expensive to speak of and I think her Dad would want this expedited if possible.
 

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Big issue will be custody/visitation my guess. I would recommend that he find out from her attorney what the terms proposed are. May be in the documents he was served.
 

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Best to have his own attorney.
I agree ... (changed my tune a bit) ... hiring a lawyer for a few hours will give him proper representation at the hearing .... and keep in mind that it is the judge who decides what is reasonably fair to the parents and child .... not the lawyers.
 

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She having lawyered up, leaves him either depending on the judge, or getting some legal advice.

The money drain has unfortunately already been activated.
 

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I went to a memorial service last Thursday.
Fella killed himself because his wife filed for divorce and he couldn't foresee his life without her (almost 3 decades of marriage).
A very stressful time; be available to listen and help, if possible.
 

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Probably good to make up a list of what each side wants, what is agreed upon, and what is contested.
 

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A sad situation to all concerned, but happens, and should be dealt with as reasonably by and to both parties, as possible.

With children a secondary but no less important issue, grandparents.

Reasonably, unfortunately, not quite so commonly found.
 

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At risk of dinging my rotor blades, I would have this to say:

I did life my way for many years before divorced 20 years ago. Changed my ways then and got Christian counseling and took classes on relationships, bible based.

Learned a lot of things I could have done better, doesn’t matter what she did.

Had a lawyer tell me “if you could sit down and work out a fair settlement, you wouldn’t be getting divorced, would you?”

Wrecked marriage is like a wrecked gyro. (I’ve done both). You can rebuild but the scars and consequences remain.

By the way, I’m 15 years into a very happy marriage, doing it God’s way not the way of the world.

I know there are complications, tell the young man to not give up on her, suppress his hurt, concentrate on hers. “Husbands love your wives as yourself” Ephesians 5:28, and “husbands, giving honor to the woman, as to fine china” (1Peter3:7)

He can still do that from a distance.

Need to help these young people stay together, they only need marriage lessons like I needed flying lessons.



Ok, my blades are dinged.
 

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I went to a memorial service last Thursday.
Fella killed himself because his wife filed for divorce and he couldn't foresee his life without her (almost 3 decades of marriage).
A very stressful time; be available to listen and help, if possible.
That is sad. If he gave it more time I’m sure things would look better. Maybe find someone even better…
 

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That way out is not the answer.
 

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At risk of dinging my rotor blades, I would have this to say:

I did life my way for many years before divorced 20 years ago. Changed my ways then and got Christian counseling and took classes on relationships, bible based.

Learned a lot of things I could have done better, doesn’t matter what she did.

Had a lawyer tell me “if you could sit down and work out a fair settlement, you wouldn’t be getting divorced, would you?”

Wrecked marriage is like a wrecked gyro. (I’ve done both). You can rebuild but the scars and consequences remain.

By the way, I’m 15 years into a very happy marriage, doing it God’s way not the way of the world.

I know there are complications, tell the young man to not give up on her, suppress his hurt, concentrate on hers. “Husbands love your wives as yourself” Ephesians 5:28, and “husbands, giving honor to the woman, as to fine china” (1Peter3:7)

He can still do that from a distance.

Need to help these young people stay together, they only need marriage lessons like I needed flying lessons.



Ok, my blades are dinged.
Going to Christian counseling is what saved my marriage, but that does not seem to be an option with her. The girl is easy influenced and my firm belief is Dad does not want her to get any counseling, and is probably promising all kinds of things to get this pushed through. If she would agree to counseling and give it a chance that would be wonderful. There is a small baby involved and I believe if someone could get to her and convince her to attempt counseling it would probably get worked out. I had hoped if we could get an attorney to talk to her attorney and ask her directly away from her Father about counseling it might happen.
 

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A few of us on the forum are attorneys but I can't say whether any are admitted to practice in Georgia. There are 50 different sets of marital law in the U.S. and local knowledge is essential.
could you please name a few attorneys that are in Georgia?
 
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