Albert, this is your problem, but you cannot see it, despite much interesting discourse.
The translation of what you have said above is...Think like us, do like us, and it will all be OK.
Problem is we do not think like you because we believe in different standards of behavior, morality and quality.
Leigh
I believe your translation is way of my intended target, and please let’s not start with the assumption of westerns standards on behavior, morality and quality are above of others or whatever you might think of it.
What has happened in western society is the erroneous promotion of democratic ideas beyond reason, it’s often been noted that democracy carries within itself the seeds of its own destruction and, that includes too, the concepts of standards behavior, morality and, western perceptions what actually quality means.
The difference between western and Chinese business culture is in decision making, western fast decisions are unknown to the Chinese and is a sign of an aggressive attitude while western haste, is the sign of an idiot.
The Chinese talk for ever, is terrible annoying, even on decisions that might take the westerners five minutes, so patiently discuss the issue, ask for feedback and explain your point , and the staff will be more accepting and respectful of the decision.
Chinese want to be included in the decision making process and this to us westerners may seem unnecessary but is nevertheless important in this culture, a fast decision to them is an insult, make them feel honored that you bring problems/issues to them and ask what they would do, if you think it's a simple decision, sleep it over and talk to them about it, the results are amazing, good harmony, will be worth the extra effort.
Chinese business people never say no to a business nor admit that they don't understand something; no problem usually means, I will try, but don’t forget the follow-up with them, Chinese will not tell you if things start going wrong. Chastises your Chinese partner, is an unforgivable offense to cause a person to lose face and may well take your business somewhere else, you are done.
The Chinese expect a boss to be a leader in all aspects of the organization and that means organizing fun events for office personnel. The business culture's high regard for relationships depends on relationships with vendors, distributors and, most important the art of the relationship, known as guanxi or connections, guanxi can take the form of a night of at the local KTV or it could mean hosting an expensive dinner with a customs official to make sure your products shipments are processed some time before the next ten years.
Our company has switched the brain dormant section and fused to Chinese thinking, with success..!
Thanks
Albert